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Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter: How one family fought the myth that you need to destroy childhood in order to raise extraordinary adults.

By Diana Holquist
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  • Author: Diana Holquist
  • Binding: Paperback
  • Published: 2011-12-12
How one family fought the myth that you have to destroy childhood in order to raise extraordinary adults.

What does a “successful” child look like?

If you imagined a straight-A-earning, classical-music-playing, rule-following, Ivy-bound prodigy, you're not alone.

This is what I thought my kid should look like, too.

I was determined to raise my child in this image, no matter the cost. After all, I was one of those kids (Columbia University, Class of 1989). The traditional path to success sure worked for me.

In other words, I was a classic tiger mother.

But life intervened in ways I couldn't have imagined. I was faced with two choices: Impose my will no matter the trauma. Or, take a frightening, uncharted path—

—to where?

A sub-standard child, unable to succeed on the level I had?

Did letting up mean letting my child down?

Answering these questions took my family on a fascinating journey. What looked and felt like failure after failure on adult terms led to a different kind of success: mad creativity, fierce independence, and relentless self-direction.

In other words, everything an adult needs to make it in today's world.

So what does a successful child look like?

She looks like my child. And if you consider a similar path by relaxing, backing off, letting up, and settling down, she (or he) just might look a lot like yours.

(Diana Holquist is the award-winning author of six novels. She's won the New York Book Festival award for Best Novel; has garnered a coveted starred review from Publisher's Weekly; and, she's been a RITA and Reader's Choice Award finalist. She lives in Philadelphia with her husband, two kids, and two cats. She also writes small-town women's fiction under the pseudonym Sophie Gunn.)


"With characters so real, they jump off the page..." --Doubleday Book Club

“(Holquist)...raises some serious issues, leaving readers' eyes shining both with happiness and tears.”--Library Journal

"...laughter, passion and deeply moving sentiment."--New York Times Bestseller Robyn Carr

"...humor, warmth, emotions, characters that step off the page..."--New York Times Bestseller Mariah Stewart

"...a real treat for readers..."--New York Times Bestseller Susan Wiggs

"...Holquist is one for the keeper shelf."--Parksberg News and Sentinel

“A delightful debut...” --Booklist, starred review

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